List of violent acts

Women most often talk about following acts:

• Withdrawing your money
• Limiting you the access to family money
• Destroying common property
• Destroying your personal belongings and your property
• Taking total control over family matters and decision-making in the family
• Shifting his responsibilities and duties to you
• Refusing to work, caring for the family
• Requesting your obedience
• Forcing you to do things you do not want
• Behaving as you were his slave, domestic worker
• Persuading you that you are a bad wife
• Persuading you that you are a bad mother
• Using children against you
• Threatening to take your children away or harm them
• Using psychological, physical or sexual violence against children
• Using children to transfer messages to you
• Not allowing you to work
• Keeping you from seeing your friends or relatives
• Prohibiting you to have telephone conversations
• Not allowing you to leave the house
• Locking you in the house
• Screaming at you
• Insulting
• Insulting the people you love, your family and friends
• Calling names
• Criticism and ridicule of your feelings, opinions, beliefs
• Disregarding and neglecting your opinion
• Disregarding and neglecting your wishes (regarding money, sex, leisure, home, family...)
• Deliberately causing feelings of guilt
• Persuading you that you are mad or that there is something wrong with you
• Inducing feelings of fear
• Kicking in doors and boxing in the wall, overturning furniture
• Threatening to do something if you leave (hurt you, himself or someone else)
• Pressing you against the wall
• Standing and sitting on you
• Violently lifting you/your children from the ground or carrying you/your children around
• Banning or disabling you the use of a car
• Causing fear by driving car dangerously, in spite of your warnings
• Forcing you to do things that you find humiliating (kneeling, being forced to beg him for money)
• Hitting with hand
• Hitting with objects
• Hitting different objects (cupboard, wall…)
• Kicking
• Pulling hair
• Throwing objects at you
• Choking
• Pushing
• Spitting
• Twisting your arms
• Chasing
• Threatening with weapons
• Threats to beat you, kill you, or destroy you mentally
• Justifying his violent behaviour as if it was committed by accident
• Justifying his violent behaviour by having been drunk, under stress...
• Clarifying that he was violent, because you've said or done something that you should not have done/said
• Persuading you it’s your fault
• Persuading you that he is violent because he loves you
• Persuading you that he will improve his behaviour
• Excessive jealousy with constant accusations that you cheat him, flirt with others...
• Denying having committed violence (sexual, psychological, physical ...) against you or anyone else
• Severely criticizing your past relationships
• Insulting you with terms like slut, whore...
• Humiliating and criticizing your sexuality and your body
• Touching your body when you do not want him to
• Insisting on taking your clothes off when you do not want to
• Touching your body in a way that you do not want to
• Forcing you to sexual activity that you do not want (for example, oral sex, anal intercourse, watching pornographic movies and magazines, imitating pornographic movies)
• Forcing you into sex
• Despising and disregarding your feelings in relation to sexuality
• Having sexual relations with other women although you have agreed not to have them
• Persuading you that you're bad at sex and making such comments
• Persuading you that sexual intercourse is his right, regardless of whether you want it or not
• Requirements that you dress differently (more sexually or less sexual)
• Forcing you to have sex with someone else
• Forcing you to watch sexual intercourse of someone else
• Forcing you to use sexual poses that you do not want
• Stalking
• Manipulating with lies
• Claiming that you lie
• Punishing you